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How To Potty Train

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All the research tells us the biggest step forwards into potty training is to take your child out of nappies, and get them in their own pants. Try the guide from experts Dry Like Me to make the transition easier, faster, less messy and less stressful for both you and your child.
Identify when to start: Research suggests around the age of 2 is optimum. If children are trained at the right time it will be quicker and easier. Mums tell us they don't always see the classic signs (often masked by nappies) so other good signs are: • Good communication skills, (e.g. can ask for juice, let you know when something wrong). • Good physical skills (can walk, climb stairs one foot in front of the other etc) • Able to take direction (e.g. can they be shown how to wash their hands) We have even had parents start toilet training when NONE of the above signs seem to be there, and achieve success. So if your child is around the age of two don’t be afraid to start on the potty training journey - you might be surprised!
Establish a good routine: This will hold you in good stead throughout your potty training experience, and instill in your child good practice. Talk this routine through with your child, take them to the loo with you, get them to practice as much as possible of this (even if they sit on the potty in a nappy to start with!) An example of a good routine might be:  Find the bathroom,  Turn on the light  Lift up the loo seat  Take down trousers/pants  Sit on the loo  Do a poo or a wee  Tear of the right amount of loo paper  Wipe bottom  Flush the loo (waving off the poo or wee!)  Pull up trousers/pants  Put down loo seat  Wash hands  Dry with towel  Turn off light  Leave bathroom and close the door.
‘Live’ the routine Start to change your child's nappy IN the bathroom to give you both chance to practice your good routine. It sounds obvious, but in a nappy a child can go anywhere, and someone else cleans up the mess. This is a big change for your child. Adults do not generally go to the toilet behind the sofa, or while playing! Explain that this is part of potty training and, to be like Mummy or Daddy, this is what they have to do. Poo and wee belong down the toilet in the bathroom and that is where you are going to learn to send it.
Taking off the nappy. While experts believe you will get faster results by taking the nappy off full stop, often parents will delay this as they are working and wait until the holiday period. We believe it is better to take the nappy off at the right time than delay and miss the window of opportunity. ‘’Potty practice time’’ might have to be shorter periods when you are both at home or even the weekend if your child is in childcare during the week. This method can still work, although it can take a little longer. Your child will not be confused if a nappy has to go back on so long as you are clear to explain why. A good child care setting will help support you while you are not able to be with your child, which might make this easier for you But the important thing is, DON’T PUT IT OFF - find the method that works for you, but be sure to do it. Putting it off will make it harder to train in the long run. If your child is ready react to their needs, not your own, and remember that success will benefit both of you in the long run. • Take off the nappy and replace for pants (with Dry Like Me in!) • Explain this is potty practice time. • Show your child where the potty / toilet is. • Explain what is expected. • Pop your child on the potty or toilet 20 mins after food and drink but not too often, as this is counter productive.
Expect accidents Accidents are a key part of learning, and this is where nappies don’t help! Use Dry Like to me to help manage the mess, but also to help your child recognise their body’s own cue for the loo. DLM in a child’s own pants helps a child realise they are having an accident and speeds up toilet training. (Reduces accidents by 43% in one week) This is why they are so effective as they help accelerate your child’s understanding of what is happening when the nappy comes off!
Going out and about When you are confident around the house it is time to start taking small trips out. • Keep early trips short • Explain what is expected. • Make sure they have their DLM's in ( gives you both running time) • Take a potty in a carrier bag Remember at this stage you are teaching your child to anticipate when they need the loo and tell you in advance- this is tricky and you might feel you are going backwards for a bit - you aren't! keep going, and keep practicing your good routine.
Banish the stress. Over 80% of parents find toilet training the most stressful aspect of parenting and, with all the dirty laundry and mess to clean up, it is easy to see why! Try not to get cross or angry at your child. Turn anger and frustration at the accidental poo or wee, where both you and your child can vent your shared frustration. Stress and anger will work against you and undo all your good work!
Ignore the ‘’Potty Olympics’’ There is a lot of pressure on parents, and none more so than when you are comparing your child’s developmental stages. Some children will grasp the basics of potty training sooner than others. Try to block out the noise, focus on your child, and ignore the child down the road who can potty train on his head after just 3 days!! Potty training takes on AVERAGE 4 – 6 months, and is not just about the main event (getting the poo and wee down the loo.) Focus on what you and your child are doing well and build from there.
Don’t give up! If things don’t appear to be working take a step back. Your child might not be ready for the next stage. Don’t give up altogether just go back a stage, and keep praising. Some children need longer to feel confident before they are ready to move on, even if they appear to be doing perfectly well.


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