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How to Be Chivalrous

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It has been said that chivalry is dead. Radical feminism has led many men to believe that the common rules of courtesy that were once standard practice are offensive to the modern woman. The truth is, however, that most women today consider gentlemanly behaviour respectful, romantic, and definitely attractive. So, if you’re a man looking to single-handedly revive the art of chivalry, at least among the women in your life, here’s a little advice to get you started.
What you'll need: 
A woman
Genuine kindness
A willingness to learn
When entering or exiting a building, hold the door open and allow the woman to pass through first. This also applies to car doors. When you arrive to pick her up, get out and open her door or, at the very least, lean over and open it from the inside. Opening her door once you’ve reached your destination is also a good habit.
Offer the woman your hand when boarding or disembarking from a train, bus, or other mode of transportation, remembering to let her get on or off first. Alternatively, a hand on the small of her back would also be appropriate.
When at dinner, seat the woman first. This may mean simply waiting for her to sit down before taking a seat yourself or you can go a step further and pull her chair out for her. And when it comes to dates, always be prepared to foot the bill.
An evening stroll can be very romantic. Ensure that you always walk on the side of the pavement nearest to the traffic (or the cliff-side of the mountain trail… you get the picture). The idea in doing so is that you are placing yourself between the woman and any potential danger.
On these cool autumn days, help the woman with her coat before going out. On the other hand, if you’re out and about and the weather turns nippy, offer her your jacket if she’s cold.
If the woman is lugging a heavy bag of shopping, offer to carry it for her. In the same way, if she is trying to reach an item on the top shelf or struggling to open a tightly-sealed jar, ask if you can help.
You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to be chivalrous. Practice on your mother, grandmother, sister, or the stranger who dropped her bag of groceries in the street.
Cultivate kindness and courtesy as character traits. Chivalry will follow as an outward expression of who you are on the inside.
Don’t over-analyse. Chivalry isn’t rocket science and over-thinking the situation will only complicate matters.
Chivalry is not a means to an end so don’t behave chivalrously in order to get something (i.e. sex) in return.
Chivalry must not be something you “put on” in order to get noticed. (Trust me, you’ll get noticed, so stop trying so hard.)


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